25 Tips on How to Have Phone Sex – Get Your Dirty Talk On

Perhaps you’re in a long-distance relationship. Maybe you’ve been together for a while. Or … you just have a kinky streak. It’s all okay!

At some point, phone sex might become a reality within your relationship or casual encounters. Here are some tips that will make things easier.

1. MAKE SURE YOU CAN CONNECT

Nothing will put a damper on the experience than being mid-sexy-sentence and finding yourself speaking to a dial tone. Make sure you’re in a place with good cell reception etc.

2. CHANGE UP CONNECTION METHODS

On the note of connecting, there are other options than just your phone. Skype is a good fall back but there are other options like Facetime or Viber (which is an eastern European version of Skype).

3. FIRST TIME AWKWARDNESS

It’s inevitable. With all-new experiences, yours might be riddled with tripping points and “guh?” situations. Don’t worry, start simple, and relax! Chances are the other person is nervous as well (and will do at least one silly thing). Just enjoy it as part of the adventure.

4. KNOW YOURSELF

Are you the kind of person that prefers to wing it and let the moment go where it wants to? Or do you need a step-by-step plan to follow? Maybe it’s the middle ground where you jot ideas on a scrap of paper and leave it on your bedside table.

Anything is ok. It also doesn’t hurt to visualize how the conversation could go and how you would react.

5. BE YOURSELF

You CAN be a sexier version of yourself, but 100% do not try to emulate your favorite sexy movie star or porn actress. Unless you’re Oscar-worthy material, it will end up sounding fake and take up way more energy and attention than necessary.

6. GET IN THE MOOD

Turn down the lights, light some candles, turn off call waiting, and remove all distractions. Slip into something sexy (that way when he/she asks you what you’re wearing, you’ll have a great answer) or perhaps pour a glass of wine.

Whatever helps you get into the right frame of mind.

7. MUSIC OR NO MUSIC

Having tunes in the background is under debate. Some say “yes!”. Others say an adamant “not”. I say it’s personal and do what you want.

8. DON’T RUSH IN

It’s not an afternoon quickie, nor something to race through to the final crescendo. There is and will be plenty of “material” to savor and experiences to be had. This includes teasing – don’t skimp on the teasing!

9. CONTROL YOUR VOICE

Some people have a hard time slipping into a sultry tone. For others, it’s as easy and sliding into a warm bath. If you’re in the former group, take cues from phone sex operators – lower the volume and stretch your words slightly (but not too far, otherwise you’ll end up sounding drunk).

10. SEND SEXY PICS

Men are very visual. Even women like a nice saucy picture now and then. Sending something provocative during your sessions will help fan the flames more.

11. WORK ON VOCABULARY

There are hundreds of thousands of word in the English language (or whatever mother language you prefer). There’s no need to use the word “fuck” all the time (it’s useful, but there are other verbs just as powerful – there’s anything from “slide in” to the dirtier option of “plow”). The same goes for body parts. Learning a few alternatives will help spice up the conversation. And don’t forget those delicious adjectives.

Meh: “I want your penis is my vagina.”

Better: “I need your rock hard dick in my pussy, now.”

If you’re not confident on how to even begin things, the simple phrase “what are you wearing” is a great start.

Need more help with dirty words? Check out this article:

Beginner’s Guide on How to Talk Dirty – With 50+ Phrases

12. ADD SITUATIONS, LOCATIONS, & PLACES

While we are on vocab, you can talk about where you are (or would like to be) and what position your body is in (or how you would like your partner to position you). Also, what would you do if you were at work and having this conversation? Would you slip into the bathroom and touch yourself? Let your imagination run wild.

13. CLOSE YOUR EYES AND VISUALIZE

If you’re having trouble getting in the mood, this can sometimes help. It might also inspire you. Let your imagination and fantasies run wild.

14. TELL THEM WHAT TO DO

Don’t be afraid to dominate and tell them what you want. Do you want them to send a pic? Would you salivate if they touched themselves and stopped just before orgasm? Bring our your inner Dom.

15. USE TOYS

Sex toys don’t threaten relationships, they add to them.  Why not add one to your phone sex session? They’re especially good if you have trouble reaching orgasm or just want to have extra fun (hint: sex toy games).

Here are some app-controlled, Bluetooth, Long Distance Sex Toys:

Lovense Teledildonics – Put Some Tech Into Your Bedroom

16. DON’T SKIP JUICY DETAILS

This is one of the key steps to hot phone sex. It’s not just “building your vocabulary” like we talked about before, but including all the senses.

What does your perfume smell like? How soft are the bedsheets against your skin? What color is the negligee you chose? Where exactly are you touching yourself and how? “I’m touching my leg” vs. “I’m running the tip of my finger up my inner thigh, wishing it was your tongue” will work way more magic.

17. WATCH PORN TOGETHER

It can be the same one or a different one. Describe what you’re seeing and what you like. Maybe a particular part you want your partner to do to you.

18. REMEMBER A HOT MEMORY

It’s like personal porn. Relive those steamy moments together while creating a new one.

19. READ AN EROTIC BOOK TOGETHER

Pick up your Kindle or trashy 5 cent romance novel. If you want, skip right to the juicy parts and savor every syllable.

20. ADD SOUND EFFECTS

If you’re not on video, you need extra “audio”. Things like sucking on your finger or moaning.

21. STEP OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE

If you’re terrified of heights and you say, “I want you to fuck me while skydiving”, stretching the imagination that much might be asking a lot. However, if you’re too shy to even kiss in public, you can talk about how you would let them finger you in a dark theatre. Now is the time to explore those untold or unfulfilled fantasies.

22. SHARE WHAT YOUR AFTER-PLANS

Are you going to have a long hot bath and touch yourself some more? Maybe you’re going to go to work the next day wearing the same panties you just came in.

It could even be something tamer like going to a coffee shop and thinking about the experience again.

23. LISTEN TO THEIR REACTIONS

Silence might not always mean boredom, but these kinds of situations need a bit more attention to navigate (especially if there’s no video involved).

24. DON’T BE AFRAID TO LAUGH

I’ve seen articles that treat laughter like it was the worst thing in the phone sex world.

I disagree.

It’s far better to laugh off something awkward and move on than dwell in the moment and have your partner need to pull you out of a stupor and back into sexy-mood. And, if they are being a brat or a smart ass, sometimes a little giggle or chuckle can totally add to a playful mood.

25. POST-ORGASMIC BLISS

Your fun-time doesn’t need to end right after you come. Stay on the phone and enjoy the fruits of your labors, possibly talking about the parts you liked the most. It will make for MORE memories for future phone sex.

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Do you have any other Phone Sex tips? What was your hottest phone sex experience? Share in the comments!

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